Loyalty

Recently, I have heard quite a number of bad news. Some of my friends just broke up with their girl friends lately. I felt upset for everything they faced and felt sorry for not being able to be there for them when they were in need. Many times I have been thrown with the same question by girls asking for the reasons why guys are so fickle and often the factor that ruins everything. It seems like guys used to be the destroyer of relationship. I found that theory unacceptable actually, for girls may be the one who give up halfway easily. 

One of my friends has encountered this kind of problem. His girl friend who had been in a relationship with him for quite a number of years gave up maintaining their relationship. Out of sudden, she requested my friend to stop their relationship for no clear and valid reasons. Since my friend loves her so much, he had tried very hard to do all sorts of things to motivate her and get her touched by his sincerity. After all the effort, she stopped her request but she turned to be passive and cold somehow. My friend realized that the relationship doesn't work out at all with this kind of coolness and passiveness. He ended up letting the girl go. 

They used to be fine but just apart from each other for a long time. I heard that the girl is having internship and having another new group of friends when working. Eventually, she broke up with my friend that week and got into a brand-new relationship with another guy the next following week. She made a choice and so did my friend. I couldn't tell how painful my friend is feeling right now. I couldn't tell how much blood his heart bled. I couldn't tell how long he would take to raise from sorrow. But gratefully one important thing he realized is that he still has a lot of brothers who he seldom keeps in touch. He wants to get back all the friends and cherished each and everyone of them. I believe he will be fine very soon.

What is so crucial in securing a relationship? I have come to learn that loyalty somehow acts like an essential protection for a relationship. It is like the enclosure that protects a country and the fence that protects a group of sheep. With that protection, outsiders will never be able to violate your relationship unless there is no loyalty. Without loyalty, people will not stay tune within their safety zone, they will have the tendency to leave their country and immigrant to another country for they don't live for loyalty but personal benefit. That's why girls seldom demand for the capability of a man, but the loyalty of him towards the relationship.   

There are sayings that picking up partner is like choosing a chicken in a morning market. People would like to search for a better chicken rather than appreciating the chicken on their hands. With this kind of theory, many people tend to give up the so-called old relationship, and get into a new relationship with a freshman as we know that the freshman somehow looks better and nicer to us. Unwittingly, it would become a cycle. They would like to give a try with a new person rather than putting effort to refresh the on-going relationship patiently. However, when the new person started to be no longer new after a long time in a relationship, it would be a high probability for the person to dump the 'going-to-be-old' person. With this kind of principle, he or she will never be able to settle down in any relationship. They would be like a rat race, running without moving, like an unproductive tree, growing but incapable of bearing fruit.         

Fever

Moment of suffering (3 days ago)

Feeling cold now. I have never fallen sick seriously from the very beginning of this semester until today I officially got a fever. Somehow I woke up with a warm body and all my muscles felt like very exhausted. I think I'm going to get sick but I still went to take a cold bath. Never tried, never know. The physical condition got worse consequently. 

This morning I forced myself to get to Faculty because my course mates and I planned to go to visit JKR. We need to do so in order to visit the officer there to find some information regarding our project. Throughout the process, I felt tired and weak. I can hardly walk and talk. That was organizing. 

Once we finished visitation, I rode on my bike and rushed back to my hostel. I felt really cold and weak, I know that I need to rest in order to recover. I hope I could recover faster because I will be having two classes and one lab. Haiz~ But eventually I couldn't attend anyone of them.

I felt terrible when I was lying in my bed. I tried to sweat but I failed. I slept and woke up from the first attempt of rest, my brain was terribly heavy. I felt like it was going to explode very soon. I wonder if I was near to the gate of heaven, because I was really in torment. 

Besides that, I was worrying about my brain condition. My body temperature was 36, and I scared that my brain might be damaged due to the high temperature. I didn't want to die that soon but I can't help but to lie there helplessly. I thought I could just rest and get recovered. But since I failed, I decided to take panadol to assist me recovering. 

That was a smart move. I woke up later with my body temperature near to normal. But surely I haven't got fully recovered. I still don't know why I got fever! 

 

Fighting till the end

达尔文假设生命是战场，就让我坚硬不投降

把伤痕装满手掌，把鼓声装满心脏，把歌声装满肺活量

Above is a part of the lyrics 放肆 by Mayday. The words above are really inspiring. If life is a battle, then let me be strong and never surrender. Filling up the palms with bruises, filling up the heart with drumbeat, filling up my lung with singing voice!

I have a friend who is trying to improve herself in order to be a better one. She has been stressed once she got into University; she realized that she is not really good enough. However, this year, the tension on her has been greatly increased, because the awareness of lagging behind has been magnified once after a new intake of a bunch of juniors. She found the pressure quite overwhelming and suffered for dealing with the stress.

Honestly, I am really glad to have such a friend who always works hard for self-improvement. This kind of attitude which many people don’t possess is really appreciable and valuable. With this kind of attitude, I believe she will do a great job in future unless she surrenders halfway and ceases to move on boldly. What a great reason to feel down! It is good to feel that you yourself are not good enough; it is always healthy to compare yourself with the people who are better and more remarkable than you. For that thought, you will try to improve unceasingly.  If you don’t keep on improving, your life will be like a stagnant milo without constantly stirring (unpleasant to drink).

However, she needs to know that stress comes once you get involved into a healthy competition due to comparison of yourself with better course mates. It may be the time for her to learn how to deal with the stress and how to cope with it for there are many different pressures oncoming when we work in the society. Those are much more challenging and stressful. It is smart for learning how to cope with the pressure in advance before we start to work in the harsh society of reality. In order to have a great improvement, one must be confident and trying to please himself in the process of striving for improvement. By the pleasure and the feeling of being successful, we are able to be charged and motivated.  

I realized that the worst thing in life isn’t failure. Instead, it is actually the give-up after the failure, the surrender for the challenges and the fear for the next coming failure. Nick Vujicic, a man without limbs inspired millions of people lives ordinarily like ordinary people without physical limitations. If he gave up many years ago, many people would lose the opportunity to meet such a ridiculously blessed person in the world. He never gave up and now he shines and warms his neighbors. On the other hand, a man without fighting spirit and motivation becomes paralyzed or inefficient and unproductive, as they give up improving and cease to be motivated. What I would like to say is that we must keep moving on no matter what hold us from doing so as we never know what amazing things will occur in the next step that we are about to make.                   

Make your mind clear

As usual, last night I went Bandar Baru Sri Petaling Galaxy Success Network to join the Tuesday night meeting. It is not a very formal meeting because I have not failed to laugh during the meeting over there. The people there are not that serious but ambitious and proactive. Haha! I'd like to call all of them "dreamers". Undeniably, it is really motivating and encouraging to mingle around with them every week.

Last night, there was a session of time for complimenting those who succeeded to achieve 21% last month. There are quite a number of people achieving that, one of my up-lines has achieved that!! Haha~ I am glad to know that. I could tell the excitement they were on the stage sharing about their feeling for the current accomplishment. In my opinion, they deserve the compliment over there. They didn’t cheat, didn’t lie but to diligently share the knowledge they have about the products with the surrounding people for their dreams. They must be striving till the very last minute just to fight for their future and for a better life.

It is really great to encourage one another to move forwards with strength and confidence. I was quite impressed by the way they started their speech. They gave thanks in the very first place in order to glorify their parents, and honorable up-line and express their gratitude towards every one of them. This kind of attitude is greatly appreciated and impressive to me. No much people know how to give thanks and give compliment sincerely nowadays. With that, I can tell that their up-line did really endeavor to assist them all along the way they were striving to get higher.

People said that Amway is a kind of place where people force you to be competitive by the stressful comparison with other improving networks. I would never attempt to deny the fact that the place is quite competitive. It can be really stressful to see people improving while we are still remaining the same place unless we are clearly aware of what we are up to. We are always the decision-maker in our life. No one can force us to do something that we don’t want to do unless you decide to compromise with their demand and request. By applying pressure to force you, you may be pressured and tensed up for lagging behind. But it is a great time for us to learn how to cope with the pressure due to comparison. Instead of avoiding comparison and escaping from pressure, I would rather face it and embrace it for the sake of my growth. However, what I want to imply is that the decision we make in life can be affected by many factors but that doesn't mean that we are able to deny the fact that we are accountable of them.

I pray for God’s wisdom and guidance for making my heart and mind clear of his commandments and wills. For the sake of maintaining my mind clear, I know the fear towards God is what I need the most. People are often led by their nose for the attractive profit, benefit and overriding authority, eventually they lost the purpose of their lives. May God bless the people around me by making me a really good servant of you.