Loyalty

Recently, I have heard quite a number of bad news. Some of my friends just broke up with their girl friends lately. I felt upset for everything they faced and felt sorry for not being able to be there for them when they were in need. Many times I have been thrown with the same question by girls asking for the reasons why guys are so fickle and often the factor that ruins everything. It seems like guys used to be the destroyer of relationship. I found that theory unacceptable actually, for girls may be the one who give up halfway easily. 

One of my friends has encountered this kind of problem. His girl friend who had been in a relationship with him for quite a number of years gave up maintaining their relationship. Out of sudden, she requested my friend to stop their relationship for no clear and valid reasons. Since my friend loves her so much, he had tried very hard to do all sorts of things to motivate her and get her touched by his sincerity. After all the effort, she stopped her request but she turned to be passive and cold somehow. My friend realized that the relationship doesn't work out at all with this kind of coolness and passiveness. He ended up letting the girl go. 

They used to be fine but just apart from each other for a long time. I heard that the girl is having internship and having another new group of friends when working. Eventually, she broke up with my friend that week and got into a brand-new relationship with another guy the next following week. She made a choice and so did my friend. I couldn't tell how painful my friend is feeling right now. I couldn't tell how much blood his heart bled. I couldn't tell how long he would take to raise from sorrow. But gratefully one important thing he realized is that he still has a lot of brothers who he seldom keeps in touch. He wants to get back all the friends and cherished each and everyone of them. I believe he will be fine very soon.

What is so crucial in securing a relationship? I have come to learn that loyalty somehow acts like an essential protection for a relationship. It is like the enclosure that protects a country and the fence that protects a group of sheep. With that protection, outsiders will never be able to violate your relationship unless there is no loyalty. Without loyalty, people will not stay tune within their safety zone, they will have the tendency to leave their country and immigrant to another country for they don't live for loyalty but personal benefit. That's why girls seldom demand for the capability of a man, but the loyalty of him towards the relationship.   

There are sayings that picking up partner is like choosing a chicken in a morning market. People would like to search for a better chicken rather than appreciating the chicken on their hands. With this kind of theory, many people tend to give up the so-called old relationship, and get into a new relationship with a freshman as we know that the freshman somehow looks better and nicer to us. Unwittingly, it would become a cycle. They would like to give a try with a new person rather than putting effort to refresh the on-going relationship patiently. However, when the new person started to be no longer new after a long time in a relationship, it would be a high probability for the person to dump the 'going-to-be-old' person. With this kind of principle, he or she will never be able to settle down in any relationship. They would be like a rat race, running without moving, like an unproductive tree, growing but incapable of bearing fruit.