Why so serious?

During this Chinese New Year, I found many of my friends have come out a conclusion saying that being serious in a relationship is an utter folly. This kind of conclusion is not something they come out based on their imagination, but their experience. Most of them experienced tragedy in their relationship which they took it very seriously at past. The pain was directly proportional with the seriousness they had in the relationship. They were hurt by the girls and they lost hope in a so-called true love eventually.

With this experience, they have come out with that conclusion. I could understand the thought of making this conclusion. They never want to be hurt anymore in any relationship in the future. Therefore, not being serious in a relationship helps them to avoid from being hurt, even if the relationship turns to be a failure after all. It can be considered as a way of self-protection. In this case, I would believe that they would rather hurt other people instead of hurting themselves. It doesn’t seem to be healthy.

I have a good friend who doesn’t have many good friends in her life. She seems to be very cool and unfriendly, but in fact she is just a very selfless and gracious girl who refuses to reveal her thought and feeling most of the time. When she was about to leave us to another stage of her life, she left a chat group that she had with a gang. She said that instead of facing the possibility of being forgotten in the future by the gang, she would rather leave in advance so that she won’t be hurt after all. I told her that it is up to her for making the decision after all, but when you build a wall between you and other people, people won’t be able to hurt you and meanwhile they are no longer able to love you. That was another way of self-protection.  

   

Not being serious in a relationship seems to be a smart strategy to many people. But actually it brings you to a very lamentable situation where you can hardly get into a relationship with true love. In this world, we learn from mistakes and we learn to be strong with the pain that mistakes may bring to us. I am not encouraging you to gain mistakes as much as possible. Instead, I am saying bad things to us can be converted into a kind of blessing that benefits us somehow. Besides, we need to stop making the same mistakes, if you are making the same mistakes, perhaps you might be an ignorant person who doesn’t know how to learn from mistakes wisely.

It is the same theory when doing a business. When you are facing problem in your business, you know your sale is not ideal and you are going to face losses. You know you failed to manage your business. It is either you stop doing business from that period to avoid failure from happening again or you do another better business planning and gain your own assets in order to have a great fight once again without worrying about the potential failure that you may face. When you keep trying with constantly self-examination, you are blessed. I believe only serious and thoughtful businessman could succeed eventually. A playful and casual man can hardly succeed in anything he does.

If you start a relationship with another person without seriousness, please share with that person your thought so that he or she won’t be serious as well. This relationship is not meant to last longer, it will cease when the time is come. Marriage may be a good topic to be discussed, but may not be a good thing to be fulfilled in that kind of relationship. I would say that a playful business will only waste his time and money to try his business, he doesn't bother to be serious and he will only do business for fun instead of the profits and triumph.