Thoughtfulness

Once again, I have come into another moment of thoughtfulness. It should be the time for me to write something for expression for the sake of relief. In these years, I have been thrown the same comment by many friends of mine saying that I am excessively thoughtful. I didn’t blame them for saying that, I didn’t force people to agree with every point of view of mine whereas I often endeavor to seek the understanding of their underlying thoughts. I am not always right, I strongly believe that considering people’s thought and thinking from other perspectives may bring you a surprising discovery that you would never expect.

I have been sharing with friends about some relationship theories and stuffs with the purpose of sharing the truths in the Bible regarding a healthy relationship. I believe having a thoughtful mind is beneficial to a relationship for the thoughtfulness would bring the knowledge of prospect challenges and problems in a relationship, consequently this knowledge would bring you proactive improvement with the purpose of preparing yourself before the challenges. It is not easy for being thoughtful without getting influenced by worries of course. However, it helps you to grow more mature when you are trying to be thoughtful and meanwhile emotionally stable. After all as what I used to say, we are not here to look for an easy life but a meaningful life.

Friends told me that it is inappropriate and meaningless for someone to think so much and worry about the prospect problem prematurely. I would tell you worry doesn’t bring good to anything, but the worrying heart that leads to mental reformation and actions of resolution is definitely and undeniably helpful. We often see that students who prepare themselves for the coming examination early normally perform better compared to those who don’t get prepared well. The first type of students feel worried due to the exam for a longer period compared that of the second type of students. But we all know that the second type of students will definitely get nervous and helpless in the examination.

Some friends told me that they are diffident, they are afraid of dealing with the thoughtfulness. They scared they will be unmotivated and giving up eventually. Of course, it is normal for human beings to fail sometimes; we are after all men with a vulnerable fresh and imperfect nature.( That is why I said everyone needs God by all means.) But what I would remind is that giving up is never a good policy anyway. No one can call you a failure if you never cease to move forward, no one can stop you if you yourself insist on moving your big and heavy ass determinedly. As a conclusion, please challenge yourself to think over the prospect challenges and problems in advance, never fear to face challenges. They are not really harmful, sometimes they may turn to be your stepping stones instead.