To move on once again

Once again, it is a special day. I thank God for giving me the chance to be a good listener for some of my friends. They shared with me their sorrow and struggle, I cannot fully understand but to lend my eyes for them. My life wasn’t that smooth of course, with a lot of challenges, problems and troubles as well. That’s why I am still able to sympathize with them.

No one in the world can be totally dependent, because there are a lot of things that you cannot do alone. Besides that, God created two humans in the very beginning, because he said:" It is no good for him to be alone." God created Eve as a helper of Adam. Helper for what? For allowing both of them having target to love!! Because everything can become whole only if men after the image of God are able to love each other and manifest God lovely nature to the world! What an amazing purpose of God for creating man and woman! Therefore, it is really despair to live without love.

Many people choose to suicide when they feel very pressured and stressed. The problems are magnified unnecessarily by their fear and making the problems apparently overwhelming. Why do people choose to suicide when they all know that suicide is not a practical solution? What make them giving up their precious life? It is heart-bleeding that many people don’t cherish their life. They should know that their life can leave a positive impact to the world; they can enjoy the life in God for eternity!

One of my friends is having problem in her relationship. The guy left her to another girl. But thank God that she is trying to seek for comfort in God even though she is still very sad. It is not that easy to face the fact and forgive the guy that left her, so time is needed for it to get better. But that’s what I told the girl, “The guy has made the decision to leave you, you need to make the decision is either to face it and move on, or to be influenced by him forever.” It is upset to know that he is not there for you, but good to know that he does not love you truly. It is a let-down for having a broken relationship, but it is also a blessing to stop that relationship in advance if it is not meant to be forever.

I asked the girl not to be depressed, because he is the one who missed such a wonderful girl like you. He doesn’t see the invisible thing inside you that is called “love”, he has slipped away with you unfortunately. Be confident that you are great enough and deserve somebody else to cherish you and be hopeful that God has someone who is great in store for you. Being single forever is the blessing of God for minority, if you don’t have that kind of blessing; you will meet the right one in your future.

I know it is difficult to admit the fact that you are the one who was dumb. However, it is okay to cry out aloud like a kid making people knowing that we need comfort, it is okay to express your hopelessness and sorrow at night so that no one will know, it is also okay to admit that you are such a failure in your relationship with the guy, because that was not the first time we failed. It is alright after all. Anyway, it is always beneficial to be honest to yourself instead of being ignorant. Ignorance can keep you from learning and growing even if you have uncountable experiences and lessons of life. Unless you are able to accept your own self by being honest to yourself, otherwise you will never be able to make other people accepting you.

What is wrong to show your tears? What is good to hide your tears? If you don’t cry openly, who is able to take the opportunity to dry your eyes? If you don’t share your problem, who is able to make you better by telling you some worse experience to you? Sometimes, we just need a pair of ears or some worse stories to make us feeling that we are not alone. Sometimes, we just don’t need much solution; but the words of encouragement to make us confident and inspired in order to move on once again.